As you will have noticed, being in the company of certain people is not always good for us. It doesn’t necessarily make them bad people; it just means that they don’t necessarily have a good influence on us.
Stating that someone is toxic might be a little harsh, but if someone displays behavior that negatively impacts us in any way, it is unhealthy for us.
Quite frankly, we shouldn’t have to submit to the toxicity of another person. Despite our tendency to want to give someone the benefit of the doubt, we don’t have to.
HERE ARE 12 SIGNS THAT INDICATE THE PRESENCE OF A TOXIC PERSON IN YOUR LIFE
1. THEY OFTEN EXAGGERATE
They often use these exaggerations… ”You… always…” (You are always busy), “You… never… never…” (You are never there for me…).
You often have difficulty defending yourself against these forms of manipulation.
If someone tends to make these kinds of remarks to you over and over again, you should stay away from them… Because it is almost impossible to feel good with this kind of person.
2. THEY ALWAYS JUDGE PEOPLE
Have you ever heard a toxic person make a nasty comment about someone in the same room when they didn’t know that person? It’s weird and shocking at the same time – weird because it came out of nowhere and shocking because 99% of people don’t do that.
But some toxic people will say that they have the innate ability to “smell” when there is a problem with someone else. The worst part is when they break someone else up on their physical appearance.
3. THEY ARE PHYSICALLY OR EMOTIONALLY ABUSE
It goes without saying, but physically and / or emotionally abusing another person or animal is an unacceptable and toxic act. There is nothing to add to this, other than if you know that a person or animal is being abused, report it to authorities immediately.
4. THEY ARE BAD AUDITORS
It is quite normal to want to think of something to say while someone else is talking. After all, no one likes to appear “hesitant” or “stupid”.
Two things: (1) trying to think of something to say when another person is speaking is not important (2) it is not what makes someone a bad listener.
Lack of recognition, lack of response, and complete lack of interest is what makes someone a bad listener. Either way, they’ll keep talking about themselves over and over.
5. THEY DO NOT ASSUME ANY RESPONSIBILITY
A close cousin of points 2 and 9, some people do not take any responsibility. Unfortunately, these people cannot see that their own actions have produced an undesirable result.
For example, we see this when someone is arguing with an authority figure – a policeman, a teacher, a judge, etc. – and illogically pleads a cause without actually having one. To rational people, we simply see this as a childish attempt to shirk responsibility.
6. THEY ARE NEGATIVE
Do you know people around you who tend to dramatize everything – people who always have negative judgment and are sarcastic?
Negativity is certainly the most common characteristic of toxic people. Negativity drains our energy and is nothing fun. If you know people who are consistently negative, stay away from them because it is very contagious.
7. THEY SEEK TO GET ATTENTION
Then there are those who always need attention. You will detect them in a conversation: they are always interrupting, dominating, and controlling.
They only like to talk about themselves in conversations. These are also the ones who always seem to be in the middle of the group shot, while making the most noise at the same time.
8. THEY ARE CONSTANTLY INTERRUPTING
These people are constantly interrupting conversations, traffic, on the phone; and be careful not to get in their way. They have more to do than show some empathy or patience.
Seriously, this is really boring. It’s human nature to interrupt someone and apologize. It’s downright unpleasant to be so selfish and silly.
9. THEY DO NOT RESPECT ANYONE
It’s always shocking to people who watch how some people act. These people always throw litter, put graffiti on public property, cut off the priority of people in the street, do not say “thank you”, and so on. These misguided, socially pitiful behaviors are very disturbing.
10. THEY ALWAYS PASS FOR THE VICTIM
For them, all negative situations are the result of someone else’s actions. A break? It’s because of their partner. Did they arrive late for work? Well, it’s because of the traffic. Homework failed? Well, the questions didn’t correspond to what was in the course! It doesn’t matter who is responsible – they won’t recognize it.
11. THEY DON’T RECOGNIZE WHEN THEY ARE WRONG
In other words, they are always right. No evidence to the contrary can influence a toxic person’s illogical conclusion that they are right.
Some will go to the extreme, raising their voice to “prove” that they are right. Remember, there is nothing substantial – they are trying to “win” the debate only by making noise.
Conclusion: Not being able to admit when you are wrong and not being able to admit when someone is right are undesirable characteristics in a person.
12. THEY FLAT THEIR EGO
Quick question: How do most people come to the conclusion that someone is exceptional? Now, we just watch it to come to that conclusion.
Mother Teresa never had to tell us that she was kind and generous.
So when you hear someone say how good they are without being asked and without merit, it’s (again) weird and shocking. Most people are modest about their qualities, but toxic people are not “most people.” ”