3 actions to build your autonomy after a relationship with a narcissistic perverse manipulator

How to quickly disengage and build your autonomy after a relationship with a narcissistic perverse manipulator or an abusive man?

This autonomy may seem difficult beforehand because after a toxic relationship your self-esteem inevitably takes a hit, at the same time as the physical blows or the blows of the murderous formulas crush you.

 On a daily basis, this behavior that you experience also means that you are often generally tired: you sleep badly, you eat a little haphazardly, you often gain weight and you therefore lose energy, you have this deep feeling of helplessness. who wins you over and you can’t get away with it.

So how do you get out of this spiral and rebuild yourself professionally after a relationship with a narcissistic perverse manipulator or abusive man?

Three actions to put in place today which will also be completed by two next ones depending on whether you are employed or self-employed. 

“To establish true self-esteem, we need to focus on our successes and forget the failures and negative aspects of our lives.

– Denis Waitley

1- Take stock of your professional experience

The first action to put in place, whether you are self-employed or employed, is to redo your CV and/or your professional presentation (to be reused for brochures, a topic on your website for example). Take stock of your training and your professional experience: classify them both chronologically and thematically so as to bring together and keep in mind your specificities and the qualities that you have developed during your apprenticeships and during your practice in professional situation.

2- Take stock of skills and professional training

The second step is to take an interest in everything related to skills assessment and professional training: indeed when you are an employee or even when you are self-employed you may be entitled to strategic sessions which will take stock of your situation, the knowledge and skills you can improve.

It can also naturally be a university education: I personally resumed my studies at the age of 43, I validated a Master’s degree in private law and I also resumed a whole training in Neuro-Linguistic Programming in the United States with Doctor Richard Bandler, co-founder of NLP. Getting back into it at a certain age is difficult, or so we can tell ourselves, but it takes courage, by that I mean effort and putting all your heart into the adventure, at all ages: when I was 20 years old and I was also a student at the time during which I validated a Master’s degree in Modern Literature and a Bachelor’s degree in law, it was also complicated to organize and then to in the face of everything, the weight of the violence I had suffered as a child, the construction of my life at the time… So age is really no excuse…

3- Set up a personal and professional network

The third action to put in place is that of a network that is both personal and professional: the personal network is linked to people who have the same affinities, the same tastes, the same hobbies as you and with whom you you will be able to share activities, tips and tricks concerning these passions that will allow you to learn even more and progress.

There are various and varied groups and networks on the internet, it’s up to you to find the ones that suit you.

You also have professional networks related to your activities or related fields. It is not a question either of dispersing oneself but of developing complementary mutual aid insofar as one cannot know everything and control everything.

And if you want to take it to the next level, so that we can see your personal situation together to find the strategy that suits you, I am naturally there to support you in  coaching towards this liberation  and to build this independent and happy free life as quickly as possible . that you deserve.