Is your couple in danger?
I chose to write this article because I often hear too many people say to me ” I wonder what I’m still doing with him or her, this relationship no longer brings me anything, it no longer makes sense “.
It’s something you need to be aware of even if it’s hard to admit. Too many people persist in couples that wear out and above all destroy each other.
Of course, there are a lot of fears associated with this.
It is true that it is not always easy to recognize that your couple is no longer connected, that the relationship is coming to an end, despite this feeling of having tried everything to make it work.
Today, I can say that I’m one of those women who think it’s better to face reality than to stay and lock yourself in a relationship that will ultimately destroy us.
By taking the risk of staying, one takes the risk of losing self-esteem and above all the ability to rebuild something better for oneself.
So if you are wondering what you are doing in this relationship, if you are overwhelmed by the fear of being alone when you are unhappy in your relationship, it is very likely that the relationship is coming to an end.
Here are 6 principles that show that your relationship is coming to an end:
1- Feeling that your relationship is failing.
This feeling that your relationship has been faltering for a while despite your efforts; repeated arguments, moral fatigue, violent remarks, non-existent sexuality or on the contrary, this impression that it is the only thing that remains between you. Anyway in both cases there is no more intimacy, no more complicity. With or without, you no longer feel in your place!
Conclusion: your environment becomes tense, toxic and your words exceed your thoughts for not much.
So if you feel like you have tried many times alone or in pairs, but very quickly these same situations come back, these same patterns, you cannot deny that it is a reality.
2- Feeling of wasting time and energy.
You feel frustrated, sad and angry. You have tried to give your spouse and your relationship a chance, but nothing has changed!
You feel like you’re wasting your time and energy unnecessarily.
You blame yourself for having believed in it when deep down inside, you feel that this relationship no longer brings you anything.
3- Everything about him/her annoys you.
You have reached the stage where everything annoys you about him, and at the slightest misstep it explodes.
Everything about him/her annoys you, even his presence. You have negative thoughts looking at him to the point of judging him morally and physically.
You realize that the good times you have are often without him.
This finding saddens you, but you can no longer look benevolently towards your partner.
4- The distance settles between you.
You find yourself in an unspoken situation.
This time, there is no conflict, no shouting… Seemingly nothing shows that anything is wrong or that nothing is right anymore.
However, you feel that your relationship no longer suits you. A distance then settles between you, as if you were invisible to each other.
On the surface, your family life seems satisfying and fulfilled, but your intimate life as a couple is non-existent. Everyone leads their life, their activities, their hobbies on their side, but everything that constituted “the couple” its meaning and the soul of your relationship is empty.
Everything seems fine on the surface, but nothing is happening. And often those around you, your loved ones will not understand and will tell you: you have everything to be happy! They will then find you too demanding, never satisfied.
5- You fantasize about a new life!
You can’t plan for the future with your partner. There is nothing that motivates you, makes you want to move forward with him.
You often project yourself into the future, consciously or unconsciously using “I” rather than “we”.
Clearly, you dream of freedom.
Once again, this is a sign that shows that it no longer works.
6- What if it had to be done again?
Ask yourself the following question: If you had to do it over again, would you choose your partner again today?
If the answer is NO, it is clear that you have exhausted your capital of fulfillment, well-being and patience in your relationship!
If you have found yourself in any of the above principles, please understand that denial will never help you move forward.
On the contrary, you will waste a lot of time in addition to destroying yourself little by little.
Of course, these principles will be associated with signs that will confirm that this is the end of your relationship.