This is a problem that everyone has already been confronted with, because it is said that the fears that we can feel in Love eventually come true. The more your partner, or you, will think negatively, the more you will endanger your romantic relationship.
How to fight fear in love? How to overcome the fear of suffering in love? How to live and accept your sentimental past without being afraid of being in a relationship? The time has come to understand why you think so and above all, it is time for me to bring you concrete solutions that will help you feel better and get back to you emotionally.
Is it normal to be afraid in love?
Let’s answer this question straight away: Yes, of course! And not just in love, for that matter. Fear is part of life in general but when you want to move forward it is essential to fight against it and put it aside or at least to control this negative feeling.
You shouldn’t blame yourself and feel guilty at all for not always feeling good or because love is scary. As I said in the introduction, the fear of love has touched us all at least once. I often tend to remind, and if you’ve been following my articles or my YouTube channel for some time you know what I’m referring to, that after happiness, love is the strongest feeling that we can feel that it is in the positive or even in the negative
The most beautiful moments of your life will come from love, whether it be marriage, children, family vacations, etc. But the most difficult moments also with, for example, the death of the one you love, but also a failure in love such as a separation or a divorce.
Fear and love are linked because of different elements:
– To approach a woman / a man who attracts you
– To tell your partner what you dislike about him / her
– To permanently lose an ex following a breakup.
– To suffer in Love and therefore not to be yourself on a daily basis
– To give his confidence because you anticipate betrayal and therefore somewhere it is the fear of commitment!
If you are in one of these cases, I can help you overcome fear in love and improve your situation through Love Coaching. You need a precise study to be able to move forward in your love life as a single person or to save your marriage .
It is normal to be afraid in Love. The stake is too important to us for us to be able to put it aside.
However, it is necessary that today you fight your fear of love so as not to relive disappointments! If you let the negative get the better of you, you risk losing out on opportunities to live happily.
Fear in love controls our actions but we must try to control it!
Fear is one of the strongest feelings. We cannot control it and it is often it that will determine all our future actions. This is how we make mistakes, our behavior is no longer rational and we gradually move towards a situation we feared! Of course, it is normal to be afraid of love, but that does not mean allowing fears to invade us and paralyze us.
You should know that fear in love has the ability to annihilate our instincts and make us think twice before acting or speaking. This is why it is not really the fear of being in love or the fear of being in love that interests us but rather the way of controlling our emotions.
To say to yourself “love scares me” makes sense but it is not on the feelings or the future that you should focus your energy but more on self-confidence and emotions because these are the elements that really suit you. help you move forward and strengthen your relationship as a couple.
Unfortunately, it is by analyzing a situation too much that we make mistakes. By dint of procrastinating, looking back on the past, thinking about what you can and cannot do, you do not move forward.
It’s kind of like when you smash your phone screen. You regret having placed it at the end of the table, you hesitate to take another or to go and repair it, you try to patch it up a bit but 3 days later your phone is still in the same condition. You didn’t get to the end of it and procrastinated. In love, and there it is more serious than with a broken object, this habit CONSTANTLY returns. This is why you must act now to fight your phobia of love.
How to overcome the fear of love: The 3 tips to apply!
In order to no longer be afraid of loving, whether you are already in a relationship or not, it is important to apply certain methods that allow you to find a good balance. And small important clarification, know that the word to love does not mean love dependence so above all do not imagine for a moment that you have to put your partner on a pedestal and tell you I love him too much .
You will therefore have to draw an analysis of the situation.
When do you get carried away? What are the words that cross your mind? Are you able to apologize?
These 3 questions will allow you to put out a beginning fire by immediately questioning yourself and identifying the primary source of your fear.
At the same time, it is essential to continue to build your own universe and to always tell yourself that solutions exist to overcome a problem. Indeed, the fear of falling in love or in love or rather the way to overcome this anxiety is done upstream and not only when you have doubts. When this is the case, it is already too late!
Gain self-confidence so as not to tell myself I’m afraid to love
To fight fear in love, or rather the fear of love, you have to do personal development work in order to get to know yourself better and understand your own limits. Most of the time, we don’t believe in ourselves and therefore we cannot flourish. If you don’t love yourself, it will be difficult to find happiness in a relationship or happiness in love.
When I carry out my analyzes or in-depth studies of situations seen in coaching, I realize that the couples that last the longest are those who are built by two people in full confidence. As long as you are comfortable with your life, you can be well together and especially not think negatively.
To sum up, even if love is certainly scary, it is essential not to focus on the negative aspects. Love should never be synonymous with lack of self-confidence and you should fight against the need for constant reassurance. This is why forcing yourself to love is not the solution.
And keep in mind that the actions to take are first done on you!
Don’t look for the perfect relationship!
Love and fear are often linked because you are basing yourself on things that are not necessarily right. You don’t have to be looking for a perfect relationship, on the contrary! Don’t be fooled by what you see in movies, series or cartoons because it has nothing to do with real life …
Even the strongest, happiest couples have arguments or even crises. A life as a couple and / or as a perfect family from Monday morning to Sunday evening, that does not exist!
Sorry to disappoint you but knowing it will help you put less pressure on yourself because life together is not always rosy. But you can adapt. But if you’re afraid of making mistakes, if you’re afraid of being one of those many relationships that end in breakdown, you risk missing out on unforgettable moments and not fully living your relationship to the fullest.
Focus on happiness, not engagement
The fear of being in love just like the fear of falling in love also comes from not focusing enough on the moments together. Rather than asking yourself questions and constantly being in doubt, why not just go out and have a good time with your partner? Why not enjoy life? Ask yourself the question! No in fact instead of asking yourself the question remedy it !!!
Having a phobia of love and preventing yourself from living is a vicious circle because in reality you never experience strong moments, especially as a couple. Do not try to stay 20 years with the same person, do not count the number of times he / she says “I love you” to you. Don’t focus on the details and live happily, just enjoy life! The more you will share strong moments, the more you will strengthen your relationship! And this is what will make you totally forget your fear of love.
Observe your past and you will notice that you still manage to bounce back, even if love sometimes hurts. Now it’s time to fight fear in love to move forward even more serenely. Whether you are in a relationship or looking for love, it is this positive philosophy of life that you must have!