When we choose to be in a relationship, we do not imagine how much so many things will change in our life. Indeed, there is a real difference between the relationship I aim for and the one I live.
At the beginning of the relationship we are at the TOP, completely blinded by our hormones and the fairy tales we were told when we were little. You feel invincible in the relationship.
Once this state has passed, each reveals itself over time, as it really is, then gradually, we will begin to go from disillusion to disillusion.
And over the months, years, communication becomes more and more difficult, even non-existent, misunderstanding sets in, conflicts become recurrent…
It’s not always easy to recognize what’s wrong with our relationship or to admit that we’re in denial . We refuse failure or suffering.
Here are 8 warning signs that announce the end of a relationship:
1 – Lack of communication:
It is essential to talk about what is going well but also about what is not going well. Communication allows you to move forward and above all to realize if you are on the same wavelength, in the same boat and if you want to move in the same direction.
If one of the two does not want to communicate or no longer wants to communicate, chances are that you no longer want to be with him or he with you.
If you are convinced of the contrary, you will have to be creative to recreate moments of intimacy facilitating communication.
2 – You are bored:
Again, the early euphoria blinded you. You felt happy, he made you laugh in short, everything made you crack up with him. Then over time, you realize that you are bored with him and that finally you do not share much anymore.
So either you talk to him about it concretely, you express your expectations, your needs and he strikes, or you chart your course.
“The greatest boredom is to exist without living”
– Victor Hugo
3 – Repeated arguments
You are arguing over nothing! If you feel irritated as soon as he opens his mouth, that’s not a good sign!
If you become hysterical because he hasn’t tidied up such and such a thing in its place, bought the right packet of pasta, chosen the right TV program… STOP!!! There is a simpler and more honest way to break up.
Take your responsibilities, your courage in both hands, and start a discussion to end the relationship.
4 – You no longer have sex
We are ok to say that we can have a low libido for X reasons, and that does not mean that the separation is imminent.
Now, we can also admit that having a fulfilling sex life shows that you feel good by his side. If you no longer have desire for your partner, you will have to ask yourself the right questions!
Why ? are you still in love?
5 – Leak
You run away from each other.
Being in a couple means no longer being alone, which implies a change. You will have to change some of your habits because you have chosen to share your life with this partner of choice. So normally you should feel happy.
So if you spend your time running away to be alone, you will have to ask yourself some questions.
Maybe you have been alone for a long time and you need a little time to adapt to this new life as a couple?
Maybe you had a crazy urge to get married but it just wasn’t the right time?
What does this couple prevent you from being, from doing to the point of wanting to run away all the time?
6 – You no longer have the same interests
You were the ideal couple, always on the same wavelength, you always had something to tell each other, to share.
Together you grew up in this couple and little by little your points of view evolved differently. Despite all your attempts, nothing changes. You are still on the same train, but no longer in the same wagon.
After the misunderstanding comes indifference and then the end of the relationship.
7 – You have no more attentions
You don’t pay any attention to each other anymore.
However, it is these little attentions that show the intention that we have for our partner!
So why don’t you have these little touches anymore? Because he doesn’t give you any more? If this is the case why wait for a gesture to act? Stop not making efforts just because the other is not making any!
Or you simply don’t want to anymore and in this case act. Why stay in a relationship that no longer brings you anything, for which you no longer want to make efforts?
8 – He cheated on you
Well here is a very tricky subject! In some cases, infidelity does not always mean the end of a couple. That may be the alarm signal, the ultimate act that makes people react.
For others, it is unforgivable, and it is proof that there is no more love.
Forgiving an infidelity is not given to everyone. The road can be long to regain the confidence of the beginnings.
If you can’t accept the deception, don’t waste your time trying to figure out “why”.
It is better to end your relationship because it is certain that you will make him pay and at the same time you too.
So what are the warning signs that reflect your reality or that you feel settling in your relationship?