If you are emotionally dependent , you certainly attract manipulators and you want to regain control. My experience tends to advise you not to waste your time trying to Neutralize a manipulator, an MPN, but if you want to try the experiment, it’s your choice and it’s totally respectable.
These people most often have a lot of charm, charisma and rely on significant social support. The majority of them therefore present one or more really brilliant facets in their personality that they will adapt according to their environment. They do not see themselves as narcissists but as different people, much more intelligent and respectable than ordinary mortals.
In principle, the narcissist arouses much admiration from others. We are obviously talking about a person who does not hesitate to praise his merits, his infinite qualities and naturally exaggerate them. If, for the majority of people, the “me” is the point of reference, for the manipulators, we find ourselves in a very different register.
In general, narcissists occupy a prominent place. They are surrounded by people who adore them, so it is very difficult to come into confrontation with them. The narcissist likes to have a court around him.
Whatever your reasons, maybe going all the way with what you want to do to not have any regrets in a toxic romantic relationship , for example, it can be much easier than you think to counter manipulate a manipulator. You are firmly decided, you are very motivated: forward!
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Here are 5 actions to counter a narcissist, an MPN:
1) “No”, the magic word
The narcissist always wants people to say “yes”, to support their ideas and opinions. The fact that one accepts what he says or does is proof of control. This means that his influence or power over others is intact. The word “no” is one of the paths that exist to neutralize a narcissist. Not agreeing with him or distancing ourselves from the ideas he proposes inevitably damages the image he has of us. By doing this, we pass over to the side of ignorance because we are unable to see the truth, “his” truth.
2) “I don’t believe you, prove me what you’re saying”
Narcissists are used to telling lies; it’s like second nature and their semantics take different forms. They sometimes magnify or minimize situations or people. Often they deliberately make up situations that aren’t true to show off, to disparage other people, or to make people around them envious. Denigration is yet another facet of these sick personalities.
If you’re with a narcissist and find out they’re lying, don’t hesitate to question their claims. Ask him for proof of what he says. Present him with the arguments that make you doubt the veracity of his words. It is likely that he reacts by walking away. However, he will understand that you are not willing to believe everything he says and that is the main thing.
3) You are like the others: you are neither more nor less than the others.
Implicitly or explicitly, the manipulators hide a very strong motivation to prove that they are above the others. It is therefore usual to see them trying to show that they know more than everyone else, that their actions, their values are the most relevant, that they think in a nobler way than the others.
It is helpful to remind him that even though he may actually do, say, or think things more skillfully than other people, that does not make him superior to anyone else. Anyone, with the right training and in the right circumstances, can excel in any field. One can be superior in one and inferior in others. Everyone’s learning is different: point bar.
4) “I am not afraid”
The best way to neutralize a narcissist is to not fear them. These people base their power on the feeling of insecurity and the fears of others. They are extremely attentive to the weak points of others to attack where they are most vulnerable. Not accepting their attacks and disregarding their words is a way to show them that you don’t fear them. It doesn’t matter if they are offended. Not letting their attacks hurt you is a great way to neutralize narcissists. They don’t know how to deal with people who don’t fear them.
5) “Don’t change the subject”
The narcissist always wants to be right. If you are discussing a point and he seems lost, he will change the subject to avoid agreeing with the other. If he makes an obvious mistake when acting, he will try to divert attention. Narcissists are very skilled with this kind of manipulation. If you’re talking with a narcissist or need to be around someone like that, bring the conversation back to the basic point of the conversation. Always come back to the original topic, what you were discussing. He will never admit his mistake but will understand that he cannot manipulate you.
Neutralizing a narcissist is not easy. You will need courage, agility and decisiveness. This will prevent you from being the victim of manipulation and you will have healthier bonds with others. The narcissist’s problem is that he actually doesn’t love himself. To not admit it, he will always use others.
Open yourself to the possibility of a better life, no longer accept being humiliated, belittled, denigrated and get help if you are ready to open the door to change.
Would you say yes and still accept the unacceptable in your map of the world?