This question burns your lips and you would like to finally understand why men are undecided in love? How can they evoke a strong attraction but refuse to commit to a stable and lasting relationship?. Do you have the impression of systematically reproducing the same pattern in your love life when you want to flirt with an indecisive man ?
If so, I recommend that you take the time to carefully study the advice in this article. I imagine that like the majority of women you must wonder why men never want to immediately commit to a relationship, but also why are they so close to their friends or family. These are essential questions in order to understand how to behave at the beginning of a relationship, so as not to feel frustration but also to leave the necessary space for the man you love so as not to scare him away.
Since 2007, I have been able to advise thousands of men and women in love coaching, this is how I have analyzed the main problem of a man’s fear of commitment and their chronic indecision, where you ladies know exactly what you are waiting for.
Why men are undecided in love!
Your feelings are strong because your presence here shows that you care about him and that this story is not just a love affair, you believe in it and you are right because even the most stubborn of guys can change!
However, the will is not enough for a man to commit to a relationship, it is precisely at this stage that you begin to encounter difficulties. It is important to fully understand male psychology and to know the actions to be taken so that the situation evolves in the right direction and that you are not the only one who wants to build something solid.
With the methods that I propose, you can really change things and finally experience the happiness in love that you so deserve. But for that, you will also have to work on yourself because it is not enough to read to progress, you also have to be active!
Men are wrong to think that it is easy to draw a line under their sentimental past. Indeed, it always ends up resurfacing. Men are undecided because they have unconscious troubles from denying this past. They are afraid of trusting their feelings again , but above all of being able to relive a relationship because love has often been synonymous with failure.
But more precisely what are men afraid of?
By analyzing their reactions, you can very quickly realize that men are afraid of losing their habits. Starting a new relationship would be for them the risk of seeing their friends less, of being less focused on their professional careers or even having to be accountable to their new partner!
Men are undecided because of relationship transfer?
You will answer me that you are a pleasant person and that you can meet their needs without imposing your lifestyle or your desires?
Yet, men achieve what is called a relationship transfer. They do not live in the present moment but also remember the negative elements of the past! Thus, they are obsessed with the negative that could settle and at the same time obscure the positive.
Ultimately, a transfer of relationship consists in reliving the past without taking into account that the person who is in front of them is a totally different woman… Who has her own qualities!
How to overcome the indecision in love of men?
Men are indecisive, so the first step to overcoming their romantic indecision is to show that you understand them.
You’ve probably noticed it time and time again, but men often hide their emotions and they don’t show their romantic feelings right away. It is to understand the reasons for this reaction that I accompany you through my articles, my audio seminars but also my personalized coaching . You should know that the first weeks of a relationship are crucial and that there are certain things to absolutely avoid or, on the contrary, to put in place.
The goal is to help you find the man of your life and that the feelings are reciprocal and shared. Thus, you can be happy in your daily life and you will no longer worry about what your man is doing when you are away.
Many women give their all in their relationship without getting anything back. This can be explained by feelings. We had a crush on this man and we hope that by putting everything in place to please him or to please him we have a chance to make him fall in love and push him to do the same or else, we have this need to be in a relationship, we don’t want to lose this man, it’s a bit of a default choice but we stick to it, we want to say goodbye to celibacy and therefore we behave in this way.
However, this does not make you happy. It is also necessary to accept the fact that everything does not have to come from you and for that, a change of attitude, a change of habits is necessary. Indeed, it is necessary to create a rebalancing. This is how you will be able to really live a healthy and solid relationship as a couple. But above all, you will manage to overcome your main problem.
You will be able to overcome the indecision of men in love and at the same time understand their reactions once and for all. It can even help you in your seduction if you don’t have a man in mind yet, you have to be in the same frame of mind and not act desperate because it’s the best way to make mistakes.
Thanks to the two previous paragraphs, you must be able to identify the main problem of their fears in order to put in place effective actions.
On the other hand, you can make a good impression if you show them that you are able to take your time before committing to a relationship, that you do not lose your natural smile and that you accept that he is different and that he needs time.
Contrary to what you may think, the more you try to perfect yourself, the more you will scare him away! In contact with you, a man will always need to be natural and to see that you know how to play down his mistakes, that you are not waiting for the perfect man.
If you implement these actions on a daily basis, you will benefit from having a more fulfilling romantic relationship.